“It’s All About Love”

About 20 years ago I attended a 10 week group therapy workshop hosting incest survivors. At the end of the 10 weeks we were given the opportunity to share our stories.  I have to say it was one of the most brutal, profound, enlightening experiences of my life.  While we shared our stories it brought us even closer together as survivors.  I will never forget the others' stories compared to mine and yet so incredibly similar.  It was haunting, disturbing and refreshing all at the same time. 

One of the participants gave us a heart pillow made of soft pink material.  Well, along with the booklet and handouts I received and the pillow, I tucked it away in my closet on the highest shelf and forgot about it for several years.  I dug it out one year and thought, hmmm, this little pillow might help my neck while I sleep.  I had a severe whiplash in a car accident and ever since then I've struggled with neck issues. So I began using the pillow as a neck pillow.  Perfect fit, perfect timing and therefore better sleep. 

Lo and behold Brent, my husband found out about the pillow.  One day it was missing and he had confiscated it!  He loved that thing.  He would always lay down and tuck that pillow under his neck. 

In 2017 sweet Mr. Brent passed away with that pillow under his neck.  Slipping quietly beyond this realm into the next phase.

Several weeks later I had a visitor.  Brent appeared above my bed, filling up the whole room with this big ole grin.  His teeth were shining and he was quietly giggling as he relayed the messages, “It’s all about Love, Karen” and “there are NO REGRETS”. 

In that instant I was nourished.  I was so happy to take on his words, spread the message and the greatest gift of no regrets shows up often.

I began making “Heart Pillows” in honor of him and his messages. I designed the tags and the pillow. I have now sewn over 300 pillows and continue to spread his words of encouragement.

I’m so lucky that the message came through and that I have a voice to express his words.

Thanks Brent Williams Day, your essence stays in our hearts forever.